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I don’t know why but it seems that when the topic of plastic surgery comes up, women talk in hushed tones, look around to make sure no one is listening and, even then, exchange only the minimum amount of information necessary.  It’s almost as if they are engaging in a black market transaction and don’t want to be “found out.”

But why?

Is there something wrong with wanting to look good?  Or is there something wrong with being willing to do THAT much to look good?  We act as though there is some reason to be ashamed? Or as though we are doing something wrong?  But how far removed is plastic surgery from spending thousands of dollars on clothes, shoes, makeup, the gym, spa treatments, waxing, highlighting, keratin treatments, manicures, pedicures?  Why is plastic surgery the line in the sand?

And then even in plastic surgery circles there are boundaries.  For instance, there’s the ones that draw the line in the sand at doing anything invasive such as actual surgery.   They feel as though Botox is fine, chemical peels are fine, getting needles and injections in the  face is fine, but anything that requires a scalpel and anesthesia is excessive.

Again, why?  Who decides where the line is?

I have been doing Botox for about 7 years. It was the first “procedure” I had and so it began my love affair with medical-grade esthetics.  I once had a female co-worker look at me in pity and say, “I just think it’s sad you feel the need to do that.”  Meanwhile, I was busy thinking, “I think it’s sad you came to work dressed like that.”   I thought she could care a little bit more. Obviously, she thought I cared too much.

This problem is widespread. I have always felt that the beautiful people on the west coast, particularly those in southern California, were more hip and far ahead of the curve on accepting plastic surgery and medical treatments.  It’s as normal as getting a manicure.  And while it is true that you will typically see fatter lips and straighter noses in sunny California, I am not sure that they are much more open about it than the rest of us.  For instance, have any of the Kardashians come forward and acknowledged their treatments? Not that I am aware of.   The most obvious question in my mind is how is Kim K more comfortable having a sex tape out there than she is admitting she has had plastic surgery enhancements?  (Disclaimer: I have no personal knowledge of Kim having plastic surgery but it is mighty suspicious).

What irks me the most about this is that women are not getting good information about cosmetic treatments because they’re not talking about it.  For instance, the misconception of my generation (and the ladies a bit behind me) is that treatments are solely for anti-aging.  Their thought is, “I’m not old yet so I don’t need that.”  Well, like the title above says, plastic surgery isn’t just for old ladies. In fact, if you wait until you’re an old lady, well you waited too long.

Additionally, cosmetic treatments defy age because they are not necessarily for anti-aging.  While this is certainly a by-product of many treatments, it’s not necessarily the sole purpose.  A great example of this is none other than Kylie Jenner’s lip enhancement.  Even if you think she went a bit overboard, the fact remains that young women are getting enhancements totally unrelated to anti-aging.  They are getting treatments to enhance their features and look better.  Another example of this, which has been around a long time and perhaps is more accepted than the modern-day lip treatments, is breast augmentation.

Let’s all admit that we are doing this.  The technology is there.  There are more treatments  (invasive and non-invasive) for skincare, anti-aging and beauty than ever before.  There are many treatments you can get without going into the operating room that are safe, effective and affordable.  And they are not for your grandma.  If you want to stay ahead of the curve, if you want to take care of your skin and have a preventive approach towards looking healthy and youthful, visit a local board certified plastic surgeon.  Sometimes the best thing you can do for your skin is to have regular facials, exfoliate and moisturize.  Get the good stuff from your doctor. It’s not shameful to care how you look and want to take care of yourself.  We need to get over feeling like taking care of ourselves “this much” is “too much” – it’s not vain and it’s no different than going to the hair salon.

Love yourself.  XOXO